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Dept. of Epiphanies

It Has Come to My Attention

... largely because I'm trying to get his things cleared out, packed up, thrown away &cetera, &cetera ...

Did you know that a bachelor geek-tech-head-with-hoarder-and-buy-new-toys-all-the-fucking-time-tendencies can leave a hell of a Rat King Nest level mess for those who love him dearly?

Just sayin'.

Christ, I never thought so much shit could be stored in a damned studio.

*looks at sky, or in to the next world, over her glasses, at departed friend. Oh, Nicky, Nick, Nick, you're such a tool*




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maruad
May. 18th, 2013 10:11 pm (UTC)
You should talk to decadentdave or his wife about this. They recently went through the same thing for a dear friend of theirs only he had a house that he had filled.
minnehaha
May. 18th, 2013 10:50 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I help a small amount with that.

Kaff, I missed the post about your friend Nick passing away. I was head-down in my own morass. I am so sorry for your loss.

K.
kaffyr
May. 19th, 2013 02:16 pm (UTC)
Thanks, K. I know you were ill for a bit, and I'm sorry you have had to deal with morassy crap. Hope things are better now.
maruad
May. 19th, 2013 06:13 pm (UTC)
So if ose is the basis for morose, would morass have a similar relationship with ass? :D
kaffyr
May. 20th, 2013 03:38 am (UTC)
Heh. Yup. As in, up to my ass in more of it. Sigh.

kaffyr
May. 19th, 2013 02:15 pm (UTC)
So many of my friends have gone through this, and it's not as if I haven't done versions; I helped clean out our friend Ed's house after he died in 2000; I cleaned Nick's place twice during previous illnesses - but this is different in some fashion. Ack.
maruad
May. 19th, 2013 06:14 pm (UTC)
I have only had to do this for my parents and they didn't horde. My mom tended to toss things out to soon rather than keep things she didn't need.
kaffyr
May. 20th, 2013 03:35 am (UTC)
And your mother was oh, so very wise.
hawkmoth
May. 18th, 2013 11:07 pm (UTC)
See, even in your time of loss, you can honor your friend with a Fireside reference.

Hang in there.
kaffyr
May. 19th, 2013 02:17 pm (UTC)
Yay - another Firesign fan!!! Thanks for noticing! (And I love your icon, too.)
a_phoenixdragon
May. 19th, 2013 07:59 am (UTC)
Ahhhh...the life of a man on his own.

*Headdesk*

Good luck, bb. Deep breath. You are doing awesome. I'll call you a little later...oh !@#$ today, as it turns out. *headdesk again*
kaffyr
May. 19th, 2013 02:20 pm (UTC)
Thanks, my dear; I'm looking forward to hear from you (check your messages for an alternate number to get me.)
gerisullivan
May. 19th, 2013 08:27 am (UTC)
As Jack said when he first saw my father's house in 2006: "Geri, there aren't that many boxes."

As in boxes enough in the entire world to pack it all up.

Jack was near enough to right. So, yeah, I have a pretty good idea of what you're dealing with.

kaffyr
May. 19th, 2013 02:21 pm (UTC)
You would, wouldn't you, my dear? It actually helps to remember that others have dealt with this. Thanks!
gerisullivan
May. 19th, 2013 06:18 pm (UTC)
Things I've learned along the way, first from Jack's childhood home in Bethlehem, then mine in Battle Creek:

1) Build breaks into every day spent on the clean-out.

2) Impossible as it might seem, it will get done.
kaffyr
May. 20th, 2013 03:37 am (UTC)
2) Impossible as it might seem, it will get done.

That's another mantra I keep repeating.
marence
May. 21st, 2013 11:47 pm (UTC)
I keep missing other people's tragedies - and I'm sorry.

Along the lines of gerisullivan's advice:
Bring along someone with no deep personal connection to do the papers and personal bits part. They will not feel the need to pick up each piece and reminisce over it. If you feel the need to do that, a separate box [limited size] can be gone thru later when time and emotion permits.

I've had to do this for friends and relatives, and I sympathize & empathize with you.
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