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Dept. of Catching Up

I Aten't Dead

I've just been a) busy; b) depressed; c) busy; d) -- oh, never mind.

But I wanted to let you all know that I miss you. So many of you have written interesting or challenging posts on fandom or life in general, and I haven't had the spoons to read, digest, or respond. Still, it's good to know folks like you are out there, writing these things. Thank you.

Things that have happened:

  • Andy is fully and completely moved back here. Bob, our friend Jack and he went down to Indiana and retrieved the last of the goods, including Tommy and Lily, the kitties, from Crazytown U.S.A. He's shortly about to return to work with his old company, at a higher rate of pay, so we know his time on our couch is limited, and that his ability to pay us back for what we put into the various retrieval and extraction operations is possible.
  • We turned the keys to Nick's apartment into the management company on Saturday. There were four pieces of furniture still left in the studio that the Sally Ann didn't want and we couldn't move. The management company refused to give us extra time after May 31 to complete the cleanup unless Nick's relatives paid rent, so fuck'em; they can get rid of the furniture. And that, as the lady said at the end of Tenko, is that. I still keep expecting him to not be dead, which, given that I saw his body, is pretty irrational.
  • I get to give a National Labor Relations Board affidavit this coming Friday, vis a vis one of the many unscrupulous things my company has done, in this case to our editorial assistants. That's four hours on Friday, probably, plus two hours on Thursday night with our Guild director as he preps me for it. I've done NLRB affidavits before. It's like court, except more picky.
  • My mother is still in hospital and now it's pretty much official; she's not going to go home, at least not to her own home. She'll be in hospital until a place is found in a nursing home for her. The last two efforts to get her home failed miserably, and the confusion and such is, per my poor overworked brother, apparently more permanent than not. The last few phone calls I have made to her have been extremely painful for both of us. Perhaps I can talk about that at another time, or perhaps I won't be able to. Don't know. Mac wants to bring me back up to N.S. I won't be able to do it until at least August, when I next have some paid time off.
  • I've been dealing with back spasms lately. Gah. I hate back spasms.
  • Haven't been able to write, but today, on Father's Day, I was able to bake, with the help of my delightful son. Peach pie, apple pie, peach pudding, all for the best father in the world. I love you, [personal profile] buckaroobob . Thank you for being the dad to my mom.
  • And that's about the size of of everything. Oh, and I am going to miss Matt and Eleventy like whoah. Probably more on that, later.
  • Also, maybe I'll write about how I really, really like Defiance, which I've probably mentioned before.
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maruad
Jun. 17th, 2013 04:36 am (UTC)
Speaking of pie, my mother-in-law brought over an excellent rhubarb pie (with meringue topping) for dessert. My wife's family have been big on pie since I have known them though the selection and occurrence have been more limited as my m-i-l gets on in years. I am hoping one of my kids (by which I mean D because the other shows no interest in cooking) starts making pie.

kaffyr
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:34 pm (UTC)
Ah, rhubarb pie! I love rhubarb, and my grandmother used to make rhubarb sauce (like applesauce only more tart and yummy), and loads of rhubarb pie. Down here, people only seem to think of rhubarb as an addition to strawberry pie. It's not nearly as delicious. My son has gradually become an enthusiastic cook (and a fan of Alton Brown's cooking/chemistry lessons. I get a kick out of it, and we work well in the kitchen together.
gerisullivan
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:05 am (UTC)
Yowser. That's a lot.

Yes, back spasms suck. May yours vanish, oh, NOW! Not that startling them away is likely to work, but, hey.

Excellent news about Andy returning to his old company. Awful news about your mother. I will hope for blessings there.

May your previous experience with NLRB affidavits serve you well. Here's to a good outcome. I testified in an USMC military courtmartial once. On behalf of the defendant, who should never have been brought up on charges. (The whole thing was thanks to an apeshit full-bird colonel out to protect white womanhood.) The PFC I worked with came through the ordeal with flying colors and the colonel was shipped out to sea in an effort to minimize his impact and exposure to civilians. Yikes. That was 38 years ago.

Onward. With love. And peach pudding. And PIE!
kaffyr
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:37 pm (UTC)
Yes, PIE SOLVES EVERYTHING!!!!! Heh.

I'm feeling a little more sunshiny today. We'll see how things go, but thanks so very much for your good wishes.

Your experience with the USMC court martial smacks sadly of the institutional mindset. If someone's actually doing something wrong (and in you case it was the apeshit full-bird colonel), let's just move him somewhere else and hope he doesn't do bad things again. Instead of, you know, punishing the jerk for doing what he did (in this case, cause problems for an innocent person.) Gah.

But, yes, onward. And PIE!!!
a_phoenixdragon
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:22 am (UTC)
Ahhh, honey...I have wanted to call you, see how you are - but I know you have been swamped physically, mentally and emotionally and I am so far away...

I'm glad Andy is settled in with his babies and well on his way to getting back on his feet in so many ways. I know it will take him a while to recover from Crazytown, but know he has people pulling for him here.

As for Nick - I'd be surprised if you DIDN'T expect to see/hear him. I'm so, so sorry that you lost him, lovie - and on top of that, everything that is happening with your Mom...

*hugs you so hard*

I hope the affidavit goes well, that your back stops being bitchy and omg, yay, pie! Ultimate comfort/feel good food.

I can't even think on it...I'm gonna go wash myself in denial in pornland now. Obsessively. *blushes*

I love you, sweetie. And if you need me -

*Gives you another squish*
kaffyr
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:39 pm (UTC)
I've felt so bad about not getting back in touch with you after you called. I hope your tooth is feeling better, my dear. That stuff sucks.

I got a chance to talk to Nick's mom, and that felt good. I'll keep in touch with her.

I've decided to take my brother's offer about going back up there, as soon as August rolls around and I have some paid time off. Assuming, of course, that I have a company left to offer me paid time off. On the other hand, if it tanks, I'll have a lot of free time to go up there and be with Mum. Heh.

*hugs*
a_phoenixdragon
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:45 pm (UTC)
Ahhh, don't you even worry about me. I felt bad about calling up and dropping that all on BB. He's a treasure, lovie. Know that. But I'm getting stuffs in motion as I can, just keep your fingers crossed for me. And I am sending all the love and hope in the world for you, BB, FB and your Mom.

Thinking that keeping in touch with Nick's Mom is a stellar idea. Think you both need that connection there.

I know you will do all you can, love. I'm pulling for you over here...and if you need an extra spoon, I'll be happy to rummage and see what I can come up with.

*SNUGGLES*
kaffyr
Jun. 17th, 2013 06:05 pm (UTC)
We need to find that legendary Great Spoon Store, and do a wholesale purchase on behalf of everyone we know, don't we? Heh.

Thanks, my dear, and have some hugs back!
mack_the_spoon
Jun. 17th, 2013 12:41 pm (UTC)
That is, in fact, a lot of stuff to be going through.

Glad things are looking up for your son.
Sorry for various stresses, and very sorry, especially, that you have to try to come to terms with/figure out what to do about your mom's situation at the same time.

Hugs!
kaffyr
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:41 pm (UTC)
OOOh, I like your icon! I haven't seen that one!

Thanks for your thoughts. Ultimately my mother is always going to be my mother, and my first duty is to try to calm her fears and make her days a little less confused and fear-filled if I can. So that's my mission, in whatever way I can fulfill it.
mack_the_spoon
Jun. 18th, 2013 04:13 am (UTC)
Thanks - it was one of the first ones I picked, made by the excellent foxestacado, whose achievements in XF fandom are legion.

And though that sounds like a tough mission, it also sounds like a wise and loving one. May you have strength and be able to find joy.
marence
Jun. 17th, 2013 03:13 pm (UTC)
Pie is Good. Pie is Great.

And if you ever want to rant/discuss/q&a or whatever about your mother, I'm just an email away. My mother dealt with some stupid medical problems and then BAM! dementia at the end of her life, and my brother couldn't cope & I had to handle all the ugly stuff. If you want to pick my brain about eldercare & such, feel free to email me (marence at gmail).

kaffyr
Jun. 17th, 2013 05:45 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much for your kind offer. That actually means a great deal to me. Sometimes knowing that others have gone through this - being reminded of that - is a great steadier, if you know what I mean. My brother is doing a yeoman's job, but I feel so helpless, being thousands of miles away and unable to easily travel. I may indeed take advantage of your offer. My thanks again (and I'm sorry you had to deal with it, too.)
lost_spook
Jun. 17th, 2013 07:18 pm (UTC)
That sounds like more than enough for anybody to be dealing with. My best wishes to you. :-/

kaffyr
Jun. 18th, 2013 04:04 pm (UTC)
Thank you. I hope you are doing well yourself; I know we've all been dealing with Interesting and Fun Times on regular or intermittent bases. Take care!
lost_spook
Jun. 18th, 2013 06:15 pm (UTC)
Thanks! Hopefully I'm doing a bit better now.
pitry
Jun. 18th, 2013 12:13 am (UTC)
That IS a lot. *hugshugs*

And I agree with everyone else. Pie isn't just good - it's excellent. There should be always more pie. ♥

(As for the furniture - I think you made the right call. Let them handle it is always my motto ;) )
kaffyr
Jun. 18th, 2013 04:54 pm (UTC)
We've been enjoying the pie a lot; in fact, both pies are close to being completely consumed, which means, of course ... time to make MORE PIE!

When it comes to the furniture, my one fear is that they would try to charge extra to the relative who is handling the money end of Nick's estate. But BB says the management company has probably seen and dealt with far more, and far more awful, things left in apartments than the exercise bicycle, broken lounger, desk and bookcase that we left. I'll take his word for it.
apostle_of_eris
Jun. 18th, 2013 04:15 pm (UTC)
I Aten't Dead
good

More of the same isn't necessarily good, but at least it's the same.

Except for Andy's job, which can't be entirely expected, and is very good. I wish him all the education he's paid for. (As in education, not anything to do with schooling, if that wasn't clear.)
kaffyr
Jun. 18th, 2013 05:32 pm (UTC)
Re: I Aten't Dead
Yup. The same is generally better than something new that could be worse. I'm still rooting for things getting better though.

And the bit about education was pretty clear. He's gotten more than his share of educational opportunities.
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