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Dept. of Are We Real Yet?

Yeah, We're Real. Real Tired.

So, rather than ramble on and say nothing, I turn to the saving grace of exhausted non-thinkers - the bullet list!
  • Had the visitation. All my step-dad's living kids, spouses and many grand kids were there to support him and to support Mac and me. It made me feel good. I know some of the younger kids through school umpty decades ago, but none of us were close and there were some touchy times in the past (very understandably.) I am lucky to have come to know several of them a little better. They're good people; better than good, really. Many of Mac's contacts and friends came by; some folks Mum used to work with. Mum was there, in a lovely rose and ivory marble urn classical boxy thing. I think she probably likes the design.
  • Discovered that the wife of one of my step-dad's kids is an SF fan, and familiar with LJ. In fact, she was the anonymous commenter on my first post about Mum. I cannot tell you how cool this is. I got her email, and hope to stay in contact.
  • Discovered, too, that the second minister who is going to be officiating tomorrow is not the mother of an old schoolmate - she's actually the old school mate. And she is pretty fantastic, I think. We only went to school between kindergarten and Grade Four, because then they built a school in her valley and she was able to go there, but I always remembered her. And she is vivacious, affectionate, unafraid to be friendly ... she gave me a good feeling. I'm glad she's involved in the service.
  • Uhm ... I think that's about all I can get my head around right now. I'm going to bed; have to be up at 7 a.m. tomorrow because the funeral's at 11 a.m. Wrote my eulogy (a little of what y'all saw in my first post, a bunch that wasn't in there), hope I can get through it.
  • Then there's will and bank etc. I'm going to renounce my executorship, because it turns out that me being in the States and the estate being up here would cause a surprising amount of delay and problem for my brother. I trust him to handle things, since he keeps me fully in the loop. That's great.
  • Huh - didn't I just say that's about all I can get my head around? Time for me to go to bed.
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ladymercury_10
Nov. 1st, 2013 03:21 am (UTC)
I'm glad to hear you have good people around you in such a stressful time. *sending hugs*
kaffyr
Nov. 4th, 2013 02:45 pm (UTC)
Now that I can finally get back to people, I wanted to tell you how much I've appreciated your comments and hugs. Thanks.
gerisullivan
Nov. 1st, 2013 07:44 am (UTC)
Oh, that is good news about your old school mate, the second minister. May she and the others gathered tomorrow bring you comfort as your presence brings comfort to them.

Strength. Courage.
kaffyr
Nov. 4th, 2013 02:49 pm (UTC)
Gradually getting back to people; the old school mate was an incredible speaker, perhaps because she made mistakes and happily forged ahead with such joy. That may seem odd to say, but even when she got names wrong, or when she made the conscious choice to talk about my stepdad's first wife (thus reminding my step siblings of a very stressful set of years within the long history of my mum and my stepdad), she did so with such a stress on honesty and clarity that the momentary "Oh, my god, did she really reference that?" reactions were worth it.
pitry
Nov. 1st, 2013 07:45 am (UTC)
*hugs*

It's good that you get to reconnect with distant family, and that they're there to help and support you.

And I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.
kaffyr
Nov. 4th, 2013 02:50 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much. The funeral was good, and meaningful, and attended by a lot of people who knew my mother and who liked or loved her. That was important.
lost_spook
Nov. 1st, 2013 08:14 am (UTC)
I hope the funeral goes well (today?). ♥
kaffyr
Nov. 4th, 2013 02:52 pm (UTC)
The funeral went very well, in terms of acknowledging and celebrating my mother's life. I also had the chance to see some very old friends and acquaintances briefly, and I hope to see some of them again before I head home.

a_phoenixdragon
Nov. 3rd, 2013 10:25 pm (UTC)
Bless you, honey. I'm glad there are so many good people (old and new) that were a part of this - supporting you and giving love for a good woman now passed on.

Bless you, dear. We are all pulling for you.

Hope the executorship (exchange of) goes well. I know your brother will take good care of everything.

*HUGS*
kaffyr
Nov. 4th, 2013 02:54 pm (UTC)
We'll be handling the executorship, etc. etc., on Wednesday, since my brother unexpectedly had to go back to work this week. (Another officer in his detachment had to be called away to Ontario because his father was unexpectedly dying, and Mac's sergeant was ... less than effective ... in handling scheduling changes. We'll survive, though. I've gotten a rental car and will be able to travel between his house and my home town to visit with my stepdad (about 80 klicks).
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