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Dept. of Joy

Thirty Three Years

We have a beautiful card that sits on our mantelpiece. It's a reproduction of a Chinese painting. On a separate cover sheet is a single English word, and the Chinese symbol that represents the same concept; contentment.

Inside, BB wrote: "Your head. My chest. Our bed. 20 years."

That was 13 years ago. It has never left the mantelpiece.

Four homes, eight cats, one son, 10 or so jobs, seven or so used cars, 10 or so computers, various life-threatening ailments and five different hair colors between us.

One life together, where the worse is always made better, and the better is always turned into the best; where the ride is roller-coaster, the sorrow is bearable, the joy is sharable, the sex is probably none of your business, the laughs occasionally uncontrollable.

He is my lover, my best friend, and so much more.

Who cares if he doesn't make the bed the way I like to make the bed?




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a_phoenixdragon
Dec. 13th, 2014 04:07 am (UTC)
Ohh, Happy Anniversary!!

*Wipes away happy tears*

This is so, so lovely. Bless you my dearest lady. And blessings to BB. You found the ultimate in life with him, sweetie. And he didn't do too shabby, either! *Winks*

Lots of love to you both. And here is to many more years of the joy you two have together, yes?

*HUGS*
kaffyr
Dec. 13th, 2014 05:53 pm (UTC)
It takes work, and the work is absolutely worth it; you know that, too, don't you, my dear!

Thank you for the anniversary wish!

*hugs back*
a_phoenixdragon
Dec. 13th, 2014 05:57 pm (UTC)
Considering we just went through a rather rough patch the last couple of weeks and just sat down and talked (and solved a lot of problems) in one foul swoop this morning? Yeah. I definitely know. Do I still love him to pieces? Absolutely! But it is work. Happens when you have two adult individuals under one roof, lol!

Always, honey. You two are the best. And your being together just...brings me joy!
kaffyr
Dec. 13th, 2014 06:16 pm (UTC)
Oh, yes, the first rule is keep talking. The other first rule is keep listening. It's hard, but the rewards are great. All my best to you and your sweetie!
a_phoenixdragon
Dec. 13th, 2014 06:28 pm (UTC)
Hear, hear!! And thank you, dearest!

*Laughs*

It's funny, in our circle of friends, we are...I guess the last bastion. People look to us and say 'Well! Michael and Amanda are still together, so the world can't possibly end yet.' *Grins* Pretty much got told that the other day by a friend of ours who was concerned and upset over the tension between us. We BOTH had to assure him. We're big about communication, but this was one instance where...communication had to wait until the right moment. Otherwise we would have only been snarking and snarling and making things worse. But...it got sorted. And everyone ELSE is feeling better, too, lol!!

Sorry, sorry...rambley today.

*SQUISHES YOU*
kaffyr
Dec. 13th, 2014 08:21 pm (UTC)
Being rambley is just fine! And you're right; certain types of communication need exactly the right moment. (Sometimes it's just when you're tired of being angry, and the false pride is eroded by loneliness.

And now it's me being rambley.

*hugs*