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Sartorial Achievement Unlocked, Father of the Groom Version

We headed off early this afternoon to get a suit for BB for the wedding. I think both of us were expecting it to be a long and painful process. We certainly expected to go to both men's wear places we'd identified. Instead, we walked into the nearest Jos A. Bank store, and he chose the second suit he tried. It still needs to be tailored to his measurements, but it should be done in two weeks, which will be in plenty of time for the wedding, on June 23. He also bought a nice tie that will actually act as a sartorial bridge between his suit and my outfit. 

The fact that we had the ability to buy a suit for him, and the ability to pay for my dress and jacket to be made (a bespoke outfit! I've never had one before!) still makes me feel vaguely guilty. But I'm trying to put that feeling on ice. It's not something I could have done many other times in my life, and it's for an event that I hope signals lifelong happiness for my son. 

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May. 27th, 2018 03:33 pm (UTC)
Awesome! :D

And definitely don't feel guilty! This is such a special occasion, and it does call for nice and potentially out-of-the-ordinary things =) There's nothing shallow about it, it's just lovely!
May. 27th, 2018 05:44 pm (UTC)
Thanks — we are so pleased at having a new member of our family (Miss Em is a lovely young woman) that this is definitely a time of joy. My guilt is probably a remnant of my Scottish-Canadian frugality. Heh.

I love your icon, by the way.
May. 27th, 2018 06:22 pm (UTC)
I get you, but quite uncalled for here! ;) And indeed, this is such a happy event!

Thank you! :)
May. 29th, 2018 03:51 am (UTC)
I get being frugal, I do. I get the whole "should I be spending that much money on clothes feeling. But like flowsoffire said - if there was ever a time to splurge, it's a wedding. Especially it doesn't dramatically hit your pocket book(s)
May. 29th, 2018 01:09 pm (UTC)
Especially it doesn't dramatically hit your pocket book(s)

Indeed. Frankly, we wouldn't even be talking about this if our bank account was in the state it normally is. We're just very lucky to be able to afford it. I'm just so used to the other situation that it takes a bit of mental maneuvering to stop twitching at shelling out the cash. Ultimately, it's for a joyous reason, so I'm ruthlessly suppressing my miserly instincts.
May. 28th, 2018 05:20 pm (UTC)
I once spent close to $400 on a bespoke skirt suit that I was only able to wear for a couple of years before I gained weight and could never get back into it again. I recently caved in to the face that I'll never be able to wear it and donated it to charity. I was able to wear it as a cosplay outfit as well as in daily life, and I got compliments whenever I had it on. I don't regret a penny I spent on that suit, because I had so much pleasure from it.

So don't fret over the money you're spending to assure your husband is thoroughly natty for your son's wedding. It's money well spent!
May. 28th, 2018 06:56 pm (UTC)
Yeah, BB will look really good in this suit. He went for a classic cut, which will last him for many years, and even without the necessary tailoring, you could tell it looked good on him. (Whereas FB went for a GQ cut, because he's young and hip. *eyeroll* That suit will be fashionable for the next 8.5 months and then it's going to be way too 2018. Heh.)

As for my dress, I'm hoping that I can wear this for at least a little while.

This dress is what my tailor is basing the design on. I loved the dress when I first saw it in a catalog that was delivered to me by mistake. It actually comes in plus sizes (which is good because if I'd ordered it, there's no way I would have looked like a tall, leggy black church lady in it), because of its simple lines, and the lengthy jacket. I couldn't order it because the color is wrong for the kids' wedding, so I'm getting it done in a lavender-y color. I might get appliques on mine like the ones on the green jacket; we'll see when I have my fittings whether I just like the solid color.

I'd love to get a matching hat, but I'm going to hold off; I don't want to bring attention to me; it's Miss Em's and Andy's day.

Edited at 2018-05-28 06:56 pm (UTC)
May. 29th, 2018 04:16 pm (UTC)
LOL at classic vs "so 2018" suits.

The dress you've chosen is so lovely! Definitely a classic item you should be able to wear for a few more years. Of all the things I've bought to wear to other people's weddings, I think there was one dress I wore more than once. Everything else was one and done--except for the hideous maid of horror dress I wore at my sister's wedding, which was later re-purposed into a "bridesmaid from hell" costume one Halloween. ; D
May. 30th, 2018 10:05 pm (UTC)
Heh. I was a bridesmaid once; my friend and I went shopping for the dresses, and it wasn't too bad, at least not from a mid-1970s perspective. I think I might have worn it once or twice thereafter, but that was it.

maid of horror

Jun. 1st, 2018 03:13 pm (UTC)
I've been a bridesmaid once and a maid of honor twice--for my sister and two friends.

My friends both let us choose our own dresses. For one wedding, it was a lovely midnight blue lace-over-satin cocktail-length dress. I never wore it again, mainly because the dyed-to-match shoes I wore with it just about killed my feet--I wore them for the ceremony and ditched them for a pair of flats as soon as the photos were taken. For the other wedding, it was another midnight blue dress, this time with a velvet top and floor-length satin skirt and a mandarin collar. Both dresses were incredibly flattering. The only stipulation made by both brides was "anything but pastels," which we were only too happy to comply with.

When my sister got married, though... oy vey! It seemed like the entire bridal dress scheme was dictated by two of the women in the party, to whom my sister completely caved in.

1. They wanted the dresses to be as cheap as possible. IIRC, the dress that got chosen was around $70 (this was 1993). When it comes to bridal wear, you really do get what you pay for.

2. The dresses had to have a bodice that would allow the women to wear their own bras. They didn't want to also have to shell out money for strapless or other specialty bras. So: any dress with spaghetti straps or an off-the-shoulder bodice was out.

3. The complexions of the bridal party were: two blondes, two dirty blondes, and a redhead, so the color had to be something that would at least in theory flatter everyone.

My sister's chosen color palette for the wedding was baby pink and baby blue. The "baby blue" actually turned out to be a regrettable shade of aqua that only Grace Kelly could have pulled off. So instead of flattering everyone, it flattered no-one. As the maid of honor, I was able to wear the pink, which was marginally less horrid against my skin. I pointed out to my sister that the dress was available in some nicer colors, including a lovely deep rose pink, but she was having none of it.

The dress that fulfilled all the above criteria turned out to be this ghastly satin thing with an incredibly wide boat neck. When I tried on a sample, it made my B-cup bust look like I was still wearing a training bra, and the shoulders were so puffy and huge that I looked like a linebacker in drag. I almost cried. My graduate school roommate took me to Victoria's Secret and helped me pick out a padded push-up bra. (When my mom later saw it on the laundry rack, she said, "Wow, that's quite a piece of hardware," to which I responded, "that's what I had to wear to look normal under that dress." Also, the skirt was very gathered, which made me look like I weighed half a ton, and to top off the indignity, there was a gigantic satin bow right at the waistline (NOT on the ass, thank God for small mercies).

So, yes, "Maid of Horror."

Amazingly, once we had our hair done, the headpieces on, and our faces made up, we looked all right in the photos. My sister looked lovely and charming, and that was the important thing. And anyway, the show was stolen by the two-year-old flower girl (my sister's friend's daughter) who started singing the ABC's in the middle of the Lord's Prayer.

Flash forward a few years, and one of my friends had a 12th Night costume party (not Halloween; I just remembered), the theme of which was "something you haven't worn for at least five years." I was the hit of the party when I walked in--I still had the headpiece, the dyed-to-match pink shoes, even the same bra. People were falling over themselves laughing. To this day, I think it's the best costume I've ever worn.
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