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     If you have a moment free, spare a thought or a prayer (if that's your inclination) for William Cardwell Routliffe.
     He's 80, I think. He had a cardiac arrest at the retirement home where he lives, in Florida. He's currently on a ventilator.
     He's my father.
     I am told he's stable. I learned that about 15 minutes ago, when the hospital called me. They called me because they hadn't been able to contact my brother.
     I contacted Mac, who's on assignment up in the armpit of Prince Edward Island. Got him on his cell phone, standing out in the middle of a PEI winter blast. He''ll call me back once he's at a hotel.
     I am in limbo now, waiting for calls from his pulmonologist and his attending physician.
     I didn't grow up with my father. I've met him consciously three times in my life as an adult. He's visited me once. We talk on the phone, but have done so less and less over the years, for various reasons.
    My mother tells me he used to sit with me on his knee and teach me how to dunk doughnuts in coffee or milk. It used to upset her, but apparently it made me giggle. I've seen pictures of him back then. He was handsome - really handsome. He looked like a movie star.
    He had the various demons that are, apparently, a tradition on his side of the family. He survived them, but didn't really escape them. Still, survival counts for something, right?
    I love him, even if I've only met him three times, and even if it's not the same kind of love I have for my mother or my brother.


Comments

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dr_whuh
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:29 pm (UTC)
I love you. Andy & I will handle things, so you can concentrate on Pop.

Bob
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:39 pm (UTC)
Love you.
gerisullivan
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:33 pm (UTC)
My heart is with you.

Yes, survival counts for something. When it comes to surviving demons, it counts for a lot.
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:40 pm (UTC)
Thanks. Your heart is big.
markiv1111
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:34 pm (UTC)
Yes....
Survival *always* counts. It sounds as though the whole story is sad. And I'm glad you have a husband and son you can count on. Yes, my heart is with you too. Hang in there.

Nate
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:40 pm (UTC)
Re: Yes....
Thanks. You take care, too.
namarie24
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:41 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear this. You and yours are in my prayers!
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 10:10 pm (UTC)
Thanks. There should be more good people like you in the world.
mack_the_spoon
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:42 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry!

I will certainly keep you and your family in my prayers.
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 10:11 pm (UTC)
Thank you. It's very much appreciated.
minnehaha
Jan. 13th, 2009 09:55 pm (UTC)
Ah, that's sad news, and complicated. I'll be thinking of him, but more of you.

K.
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 10:11 pm (UTC)
Thanks.
jlrpuck
Jan. 13th, 2009 10:09 pm (UTC)
My thoughts are with him--and with you.
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 10:12 pm (UTC)
Thanks. I'll be drinking a lot of coffee now.
dameruth
Jan. 13th, 2009 10:12 pm (UTC)
Best wishes for you and yours in this tough time.
kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 10:13 pm (UTC)
Thanks.
heatherbelles
Jan. 13th, 2009 11:16 pm (UTC)
*sending all my love to you and your dad*

kaffyr
Jan. 13th, 2009 11:31 pm (UTC)
Thank you, my dear.
monkey_pants7
Jan. 13th, 2009 11:46 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry, Kaffyr. My thoughts are with you, your father, and your whole family.
kaffyr
Jan. 14th, 2009 12:12 am (UTC)
Thanks, my friend.
mizzlaurajean
Jan. 14th, 2009 12:23 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear about your father. Warm thoughts and hugs to him and family.
kaffyr
Jan. 14th, 2009 12:43 am (UTC)
Thank you.
kaffyr
Jan. 14th, 2009 06:08 am (UTC)
Thanks, my dear.
cathica
Jan. 14th, 2009 12:33 am (UTC)
I am inclined to prayer, and will include one for your dad, and another for you. (((((hug)))))cheekkiss*
kaffyr
Jan. 14th, 2009 12:44 am (UTC)
Thank you, so very much.
mjlayman
Jan. 14th, 2009 05:53 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you find comfort.
kaffyr
Jan. 14th, 2009 06:09 am (UTC)
I am finding bits of it here and there. Thanks so much. You take care of yourself, OK?
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